How To Expect More Out Of Life Without Being An Asshole

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I recently talked to a friend who is going through a lot of personal changes. We talked a lot about personal development and change and how dealing with other people´s problems instead of oneself can really bring you out of balance and make you feel overwhelmed by the way the world works. He mentioned how he does not expect his job to be great/interesting/challenging as long as he can have a wonderful private life as a counterbalance. I know that he is basically one of the most eloquent and intelligent people to walk this planet, but some experiences in the past made him feel small and overly humble. Only in the last couple of weeks had he realized that he is deeply unhappy with the status quo and would not like things to continue as they are.

I say: Bravo! Cheers to him!

The universe basically just sits and waits for us to wake up and realize who we want to be. And it mostly starts with thinking a lot about how we DON´T want to be. But don´t let the inner critic get all the attention. This is the moment where you can take all your negative thoughts and work with them. See them as hints to what you truly want.

Write things down! Get a big piece of paper and make a huge mind map. As you write down what you don´t what anymore, you will notice certain patterns. I can only emphasize the necessity of knowing one´s patterns and developing the need to change them. Are you constantly late? Are you insecure? Do you feel like you are incapable of getting a better job? How do you define happiness?

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I say: think bigger! Be daring! What are your wildest dreams? Why do you think everyone can have a better job and be happy with it and you don´t? Where do you set your limits to happiness? You deserve it. You deserve happiness. You deserve to figure out your own way and then go.

Nothing is forcing you to stay where you are, if you are not happy. Nobody else than you. You limit yourself in your thoughts and how do you expect the universe to help, if you are not ready to accept the good into your life?

They key is to be thankful for all the good things that you have right now. It opens up your mind to the possibility that there are good things in your life already and that you have a good base to start from. This will also keep your ego from growing too big. Making up your mind to your dreams, but keeping your feet firmly on the ground through gratefulness makes the perfect cocktail.

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You take responsibility for yourself. There is no point in making yourself small. The world becomes bigger and bigger the more you hide and eventually you will end up being intimidated by basically everything "out there". Fear makes small. It´s so sad watching amazing people being all cynical about themselves just because they are afraid of change. They cling to the situation and the pain they are in now, because they cannot imagine a better life for themselves. Be brave!

Remember when you were a child and you were somewhere with your parents, probably at some friend´s place and you saw that bowl with the most delicious sweets in it? What did you do? You ran to your mother and whispered into her ear, that you would really really love to have a piece, but were to afraid to ask. And your mother told you that if you really want it, you would have to ask their friend. You couldn´t just take it, because that would have been rude (the asshole mode). Remember that good feeling that you had after being brave enough to ask? Wasn´t that one of the best sweets you ever had? Now imagine that the universe is your friend, it has the most delicious things in store for you, all you have to do is to ask kindly and wait. And trust.

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Everything is already there for you.

5 things I am thankful for today:

• When I want outside for foodshopping, two little girls told me that they thought I looked very beautiful in my dress on my scooter. Kids never lie to you. I was puzzled!
• The avocado for tonight´s salad was perfectly ripe.
• Norman Crystal let me sleep in until 7.20 am
• The feedback to the changes in the Vanillery Garden have been positive. 100%.
• I find it heart to fall asleep, because I love my life so much that my hearts beats like a teenage girl´s being wildly in love with a cute guy.

Oh and my friend has started a blog! It´s written in german, but give him some cheers in the comment section, whether in english or not: the world needs more men who write about their feelings!

Hugs to you all,