Let´s Put A Stop To…

Balcony @ the apartment in Berlin.

I´m back home! I miss Berlin already, but I have some awesome pictures and a little movie for you soon, Mr.DomDom is preparing the pictures and I am doing the editing of the video. While one travels the world and sees different countries and different people, there are some things that we all can relate to. Things that happen and things that we do on a daily basis, but I think we need to stop doing them. Here is my little list:

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So the woman that owned the apartment wasn´t just any kind of cool. She was THIS cool!

♥ Rude hand gestures
You´ll see them everywhere. In your car, on your bike, while you take the dog for a walk or while shopping for food. It´s nasty, but resist the urge to give "the message" back. It won´t make you feel any better or superior to the other person. It´s very kindergarden. And it´s totally different to putting your tongue out in a playful way to mock your friend. If you feel like you need to air your finger a bit more, do it while waving. In fact I just pulled my finger for a photo in Berlin and it made me feel completely uncomfortable. I never do it. It doesn´t need to be part of our bodylanguage vocabulary.

♥ Comparing yourself to others

Berlin is a really stylish city. Not that Vienna is so bad, but I think the fashion awareness is a lot lower. You see a lot of really beautifully dressed women on the streets and it is really hard not to go like "I´ll never look like that!" But actually it is completely irrelevant! Why would we like to look like somebody else? That seat is already taken anyways and why not work up our own style. Because it´s hard? Well, it was hard for everyone who put a lot of effort into their character and identity. It takes time and constant try and error. If it all comes together and matches up, you´ll get the image of "perfect". It all fits together. But you´ll need to do it your way without constantly peering at somebody else.  
Focus, focus, focus.

I found the cutest dress in a vintage store. It has apples on it! Big vacation mess in the background, lol!

  

♥ Thinking that your size equals your level of beauty

Don´t even get me started! Everyone of us has a certain body type and don´t be fooled by the media into thinking that you need to be a S or even XS to be able to "join the circle". I have lost a lot of weight in the last 3 years and did this not on purpose. The women in my family become thinner as we age. I have been told on more than just one occasion to get some weight on those bones and that I look so fragile and too thin. I feel like I need to justify the way I look. Hello? Who´s judging? I would feel really bad if I would take in personally. But I don´t. Honestly, all those magazine headlines about losing another 5lbs are not even worth being used as toilet paper. Nobody will care. What´s most important is your health. Not your size.

♥ Gossip

It´s not doing you any good. We all fear that others might talk behind our back. "Did you see what Dana wore the other day? What was she thinking?" or "Geez, I wonder why they are together. He/She could do so much better!" It can be any way and any topic. Avoid it. Or change the way you do it. Turn it into something positive like "Lisa had the most wonderful hairstyle, how did she do it?" Make an effort to look for the good things. This will also bring fresh air into your conversations and attention to the sunny side of life. It´s not about being superficial and fake. Be honest about your likes and say them out loud. You´ll find that people will approach you with other topics than before! Totally worth leaving the gossip behind.

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What is it that you find worth putting effort into? What would you like to change?

5 things I am grateful for today:

• coming home, having my happy furbabies around me
• writing blogposts at midnight, munching Nutella
• blogsy app for writing entries from my iPad. Really convenient!
• The sound Koko makes when eating a raisin.
• the entries and effort everybody puts into the Radical Revolution are so wonderful! Everybody is doing great!

Hugs to you and thank you for checking in here so often (there´s been a significant raise to daily blog views lately, yay!)