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"I only happen to see girls that are etherally thin in Mori. As someone with curves I feel not only underrepresented but also a little bit left out. There are no real examples of women with some breasts and butts (sorry for being so frank) so I always fear to look utterly silly in this style. We definitely need some more curvy love here!"
This quote comes from a blogpost done by hedgefairy and I love her honest approach. Why is it that the media doesn´t offer a greater variety on body images? Even in Asia it can´t be true that every single girl is slim and slender. Looking through the magazines, tumblrs and youtubes you hardly get to see anything else but what society sees as "perfect". I can tell you: It makes me mad! This just shows that the media consists of cowards who are too afraid of jugdemental readers/viewers in order to bring more flavors into the show.
The whole thing is about making us feel insecure. Happy women don´t buy diet pills. (and you would be amazed how much money is made out of diet products!) The pharmacy wants you to buy their products. As well as the food industry does. Coke Zero? Cream cheese light? 1/3rd of sugar?
How often do you check your food for calories? There was a time when I was obsessed with it. Some years ago I thought my life would be perfect if I had 45kg/99,2 lbs. Which was hilarious of course. I didn´t feel any better when I reached my "goal". The moment I was there, I found something else that I didn´t like. My hair, my face, whatever showed up in the mirror. I did not feel worthy. I thought life was for the beautiful and skinny and that I would never be part of that group, no matter how hard I tried. It took me years to realize and to really believe myself when I said that life is not about weight. It IS about food. It is about what you eat and how you treat yourself.
But it´s not about that number on your scale.
It is so important to look at your patterns. Who do you idolize? What do you think is good-looking? I think we mori girls have really hard time, harder than any other subculture because the clothes of this style are not exactly very tight fitting. They make you look bigger very easily if you are not watching for your body type and how to enhance your better features. The only references that we have come from tiny japanese girls and no matter how much weight I would try to lose, I would have to break my hips to get them smaller. I would have to squeeze myself into a corset for years and still: it would not be me.
My goal is to bring a bit more diversity into the scene. I do feel happy with the way I look. Mostly. Of course there are some bad days in between, but generally I´m ok. I look after my body. I watch out for what I eat. I can´t wear slim jeans and look like superwoman, that is never going to happen. But I do want to inspire girls with a similar figure as mine and I think everyone can be inspired by the combinations and colors and accessoires. Plus: it´s all about networking. I have a general interest in fashion blogging that is different (like Elsie Larson, Kaelah Bee or Kaylah). Looking at their photos I can dream of what the dress would look like on my body. I love real life people that did not spend hours on retouching their photos. My plan is to get statements and posts about this topic up here in the following weeks. If you want to find your opinion in a blogpost here or if you have a blogpost that deals with the same issue, please contact me under blumennelly(at)gmail(dot)com
5 things I am grateful for today:
- eating nougat mousse at the delicious monster (the best!)
- waking up too early and realizing that I still have 2 more hours to sleep
- having Peter Legat from Count Basic posting funny illustrations on my facebook wall
- Mr.DomDom is really patient with me as I spend most of my evening in front of my Mac, posting. :D
- the awesomeness of the character design in FFXIII. I love them all!
Mega-hugs and pink cupcakes,