Sometimes I catch myself judging others. It´s a really bad habit. Not because it will get you into jail or it makes you a bad person. Forming an opinion is human and mostly good in other kinds of situations like politics or ethical discussions. Some moments in our lives even demand a strong opinion. Standing up for your friends or yourself, protecting animals, etc. But on the other hand there are things that are
non of our business. As often as it happens in society, we even see it on TV all the time: gossip and jumping to conclusions from bits of information that we have is just not right.
Sometimes it´s easy to get there, because many people just talk behind the back of others without showing any signs of remorse (and even if they do, it seldom stops them from going on gossiping within the blink of an eye.)You just need to sing along, it´s very easy. Yet it get´s you nowhere. Everytime I talk about something that is
beyond my personal limits I kind of feel
dirty. Like I intruded somewhere. As if I had fallen into an emotional swamp that is not mine and now I have to go and clean myself. It´s not a very good feeling and it surely isn´t worth the entertainment.
When Whitney Houston died I went to youtube to listen to some of her songs and one of the comments below that video was really mean:
"So a crack whore died alone in her hotel, who even cares." I was mad. How dare that person judge her? Who is he to know what she went through? We all don´t know. Yes, it´s pretty easy to say that drug addicts die on a daily basis and nobody cares. But who are we to judge them? Who are we to say
what is wrong and what is right? We don´t know if we had acted differently if we were to be in the same situation with the same background and upbringing? If you are sitting in a save home, having good friends, delicious food and people who love you then be grateful. Be grateful that you are not in the same situation as Whitney or any other sad and lonely person was.
You are blessed with your life.
Sadly gossip and judging others is nothing else but an expression for
lack of compassion. People seem to care on a very superficial level, but not really. Not enough to talk directly to the person that they talk about. Not enough to actually help. Silently we sometimes tend to put our puzzle pieces together without knowing the
actual truth. We hate it when people measure everything with the same yardstick when it comes to our own problems, but we are no better ourselves. If we really care, we need to get a closer look, which means: go and talk directly. If we don´t care, we might as well shut up and use our energy for other things. Like cooking or cleaning the house. Or walking our puppy. Or starting that project that has been sitting in that corner for ages.
It´ll be worth it.
And if that isn´t enough you might as well consider reading this:
5 Reasons Why Gossip Will Make You Lonely
5 things I am grateful for today:
- my passion for puppet theatre is coming back. Phantasy is running wild.
- The enormous energy from Whitney Houston´s "Exhale"
- doing a lot of extra hours at work, but it doesn´t really feel exhausting at all.
- the amazing arrangements of the Final Fantasy XIII-2 soundtrack
- wild fuzzy hair. I´m grateful for not having sleek hollywood hair.
Happy Wednesday to you!
XOXO,
